By SYCORAX TIYESA NDHLOVU -
ome people have wondered why they are where they are and not where they are supposed to be in their careers. Some people have also wondered why they have not achieved what they wanted to be in their life.
And they have asked: What determines success or failure in one?s life?
Some people think that they are what they are because their family or their parents were be witched.
Some people think that their being out of employment, or in a poor low-paying job or their economic status general is because of ?vaku banthu?.
Some people have also wondered why their marriages are in such in shambles when others are singing ?hallelujah! Amen with joy in their marriages its all because of choices.
But before we consider what affects one?s success or failure in life, let?s learn from one of our readers? feedback about how this column is being perceived by our readers.
Sammy Siame, Kitwe says from the time he started reading Let?s Talk Careers articles; especially the topic Turn Your Success Light On which appeared in this column, his perception of life has completely changed.
Mr Siame says his mindset has changed to positive thinking; and he says these articles will contribute to changing his life for the better.
He promised to continue reading these articles in order to improve his life. Mr Siame has also asked this author and Times of Zambia to continue writing such articles which are helpful; especially for youths.
Every human being is always faced with two things in most situations. These are either a good or bad; either a right or wrong things. And God-The Creator, is so democratic that He doesn?t force anyone to choose what God wants for that person. God can advise you what to choose. But in most cases, because of the number and size of our sins one has, one ignores God?s guidance; and chooses what one feel s is good or right.
So, why is it that some of our friends we had at school in the same class are well-off than us? Why is it that some of our friends who we were with at school in the same class are struggling with economic hardships? It a question of choices one has been making up to date.
In every situation, there is a right and wrong decision that can be made. What do you always choose between right or wrong choice?
And J Martin Kone said the power that a person possesses is the power to choose. Now this power to choose which each one of us has can be used either for good or bad in our career, marriage or anything that we want to contribute to our success and happiness in life.
In short, from childhood, what have been your choices? Were they good or bad choices? Consider the choices you made at school. Reflect on what attitude you chose on certain subjects.
Remember how you reacted to parents? advice on that what you used to do when you were at school. Some people have had right choices in many situations while others have had bad or wrong choices.
Some people are in good jobs now because they made a right decision to study hard at school. Such people might be in a good jobs now because they turned down a low paying job; and made sure that they get the best one for their hard earned education.
Others might be in a poor job now or were fired a job they rushed for after turning down a good job which would have provided a good monthly salary and job security. Someone turned down marriage court-ship from someone rushing for someone else who is always giving him or her problems; or has actually divorced him or her now. Someone even divorced his or her spouse in preference for another one; but later regretted having done so as problems multiplied more than ever before. Someone divorced his or her spouse; and lived a happy marriage.
Your past decisions determine your present status. It is the average of good or bad choices that influence what you are today.
Of course, in some cases, some good decisions can overshadow some many wrong decisions and vice versa; but the point is that the more you make good or right decisions in most situations you make, the more the chances of success and happiness in your life.
The more good or right things you choose the more you are successful in life. The more bad or wrong things you have been choosing in your past, the more you haven?t achieved your dreams up to this stage.
Some people had an opportunity to get employment in a certain position in a certain firm or organisation where they would have had job security and job satisfaction; but they turned down such a job opportunity.
Now such people are regretting being in a poor and low paying job. Some of such people are completely out of employment after turning down a certain job from a certain organisation.
All such are situations where one makes a choice which later contributes to one?s success or failure. All such diverse examples of situations that demand making a choice have deliberately been applied in order to show you how choices we make can affect our progress in our career. Some marriage choices some people made affected their career development process.
Imagine a lady being married to a gentleman who doesn?t want her to be in any formal employment or in any business. Think of being married to someone who refuses to go with you where you have found the job really wanted.
Our past choices can affect our current and future situations. This is why it is important to make right decisions at the right time.
Some people are ?Kwalola Umwela? type. They decide on anything without considering the advantages and disadvantages of each choice.
Weigh the pros and cons of every situation. Careless decision-making process can lead you to misery while careful decision-making process can lead you to success in your career; and eventually in your life.
How best are you going to prioritise the use of economic resources to make sound progress in your career? Choices on where to spend your money influences your career and life success.
Clement Stone said you can steer the course you choose in the direction you want to be-today, tomorrow or in the distant time to come.
In every situation you face, pray to God to guide you to make a right decision. Decision-making process is a product of personal knowledge and experience gained in life.
Decision-making process is also a product of what your good and wise parents, relatives and friends give you. Decision ?making process is the ability to weigh what is right or wrong; or what is good or bad.
To make a wise decision in every situation, you must be a disciplined person. A disciplined person accepts wise guidance and advice from parents. A disciplined person associates with good friends.
Thus, choosing good friends is also part of right choice that leads you to success not only in your career but also in your life.
A disciplined person knows how to use his or her time on what adds value to his or her life. Don?t be indecisive in every situation. Develop principles which will guide you to assess what is good and what is bad.
Dr John C Maxwell said life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you. Therefore, you might have been making good choices in the past; and that you are happy with your career development process so far.
That?s good. Keep it up! But if you reflect very well, you might discover that you would have done much better than where you are now. This is food for thought because there is always room to improve. So continue making better choices. Look for even better choices than ever before.
If you have not been making good choices in the past, it is not too late. Repent your sins that prevent you from making good and sustainable choices. Pray hard to God that when He guides you on which choice to make in a given situation, you will be able to know that this guidance is coming from God-The Almighty; and not from the Devil whose choice might look colourful to the eyes and minds of the wicked; makes one to regret shortly after that choice.
Therefore, don?t be surprised with what you are today. Don?t blame anyone for what you are. Your parents, brothers and sisters or anyone close to you, is not to be blamed for any negative situation you might be in. If anything, you should thank them for contributing to at least where you are through their advice and support of any kind.
Generally, you are a product of your own choices. You reap what you sow. Therefore, from now on-wards, make better choices for your better career and success in your life.
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